Good morning! I hope your day is starting off well.
It’s Hump Day! That means the weekend is halfway here. Seems they come around a lot faster these days. On the other hand, it seems they vanish a lot faster, too. I always used to hear old people talk about how time flies. That’s a foreign concept when you’re 9 and waiting for that next birthday. But at this age, time evaporates faster than a bag cheese puffs in a room full of puppies.
We talked yesterday about how we can manage time, but how would you like time to manage you? As the days and years roll by, where would you like to end up? What do you want to do when you get there? We’re all working toward a goal, whether we realize it or not. And if we’re not working toward anything, that’s pretty much where we’ll end up. That’s a sobering thought.
Dreams are the foundation of accomplishment. Without dreams, we’d go through life like drones, never imagining anything besides our current reality. And sadly, for some of us, that pretty much describes our existence. We’re so busy trying to navigate the obstacles of daily life that we never take time to imagine anything different, possibly even better.
So, let me ask you a question I’ve asked a few times before in these posts. What goals would you set for yourself if you knew you couldn’t fail? If somebody handed you a magic wand and said, “Here – you decide what you want, and this wand will make it happen,” how would your life change? Take a look around. Is this where you’d end up? Or do you think you might aim a little higher?
This is a challenging concept for most of us, because the longer we live, the more we experience disappointment. We tell our kids to aim for the stars, because there’s nothing they can’t accomplish. But the example we set is one of moderation, possibly even fear. We don’t aim for the stars because too many times in the past we’ve come up short. So, we aim for what we think we can hit.
Nobody likes to fail, and so it’s easy to reach for the things we know we can have instead of something that may be a little more out of reach. It removes the fear and doubt, but it also removes the challenge. And when there’s no challenge, there’s no cause for celebration. So, you tied your shoes this morning. Woohoo!!!
But there was a point in your life when that was cause for celebration. Until that point in time, somebody else had to tie your shoes for you. One day you decided to try it for yourself, and I’d bet my next paycheck you created a knot tight enough to make Superman curse. But you believed it was a skill you could master, and one day you did. Instead of aiming for slip-ons, you aimed a little higher.
Reaching higher goals doesn’t necessarily require any new skills. It just involves better mastery of the skills we’ve already got. Tying a pair of shoes is possible for anybody with the eye-to-hand coordination of a toddler. From there, it’s simply a matter of fine-tuning what we’ve already got. The world’s most skilled brain surgeon once celebrated tying her own shoes. Think about that for a moment.
And mastering a skill begins with the belief that you can do better. Practice helps, but only in reaffirming the belief that made you try in the first place. And that same belief can lead you to even greater goals. Sure, you may have to develop a few new skills along the way or polish the skills you’ve already got. But that part is a lot easier when you already know the outcome.
Belief is knowing the outcome before it happens. It’s starting a journey with the knowledge that you will arrive at your destination. It’s knowing you can handle anything that comes up along the way. It’s simply a matter of focusing on success and removing any thoughts of failure. When you left for work this morning, was there any doubt you’d eventually arrive? That’s the power of belief.
Belief is absolute. There are no shades of gray. Confidence, on the other hand, leaves a little more room for doubt. It’s measured in degrees of probability. And when we consider probability, we assume some potential for failure. To believe in something means we view the outcome as not only possible, but inevitable. And if success is inevitable, why not aim a little higher?
We generally measure up to our own expectations. The higher we set those expectations, the higher we’ll climb. It all begins with a belief in ourselves, in our ability to succeed. It’s already in you – it was there when you learned to walk, and it was there when you first tied your own shoes. And it’s there today, just waiting for something else to take on.
That’s all for now. Have an awesome day!
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